Here are a couple of ideas:
- “Be a human being.” That is what Life Report said in one of their videos on a similar topic. What does this mean? It means to actually be concerned about the woman for the rape that they went through. When she tells you that she was raped, the first thing out of your mouth should be something along the lines of, “Oh my goodness! I am so sorry for what you had to go through. Are you okay?” You should be legitimately concerned for what the woman had to endure.
- Continue the discussion with kindness and love. You should be doing this anyway, but you should especially make sure to do so in situations like these. Make sure that they understand that you consider them to be a victim of a heinous crime.
- After making sure that she knows how much you care about her situation, the conversation will usually divert back to the abortion issue at-hand. So address to her, with continued sincerity and kindness, that while you, the pro-lifer, believe that she is a victim you also believe that the unborn child is a victim. You will want to ask her if a woman who was raped, became pregnant, and kept the child would be wrong in killing the child when he reaches two years old and begins to look like his father (the rapist). If she says yes then link that back to the unborn child and ask what the moral difference is, then, between the two.
- If you are with a group of people in a pro-life movement and you know someone in the movement who was raped, then you might want to consider getting that person to talk to the woman, for they will be able to have more common ground.
- Don’t focus only on the unborn child. The woman is a victim here, as well. Thus, if you only focus on the unborn you will make her think that it is only the unborn child that you care about. You will never reach her this way.
- Don’t become angry at the woman, even if she lashes out at you. It is not uncommon for pro-choicers in general but especially women who are the victims of rape and have aborted the child they conceived as a result of it to become very angry with you. Do not take it personally. They are the victim of a heinous crime. Thus, their anger is understandable.